I've been reading through some of Tammy Etheridge's blog, HollywoodFarmgirl. This is just nosiness and pure speculation, but maybe Melissa Etheridge got too comfortable and bored in her home/married life with Tammy and tykes to be productive. As artists, we often flourish (our work flourishes) during moments of drama or turmoil. That is to say: intense emotions have a habit of increasing artistic productivity.
When things become too simple or repetitive or mundane -or when our emotions no longer drive our art, the artist might become restless. She may even misinterpret that restlessness for unhappiness rather than seeing it for whatever it truly may be. Then, as a result of this misinterpretation of self, the artist might self-sabotage in the name (misname) of happiness or freedom (or whatever other bull-shit she's selling herself); when in fact she is actually seeking out the unhappiness that drives her to create her "best" art. The "best" art may also be a MISinterpretation by the artist, as she has bought into the public's valuation of her art (and, therefore, internalized their valuations and devaluations of her art).
Her self-worth then becomes tied so deeply into her public image and artistic fame that she will abandon anything that poses a threat to either. Day-to-day family life (aka life with children) DEFINITELY threatens artistic productivity, public success AND fame. It's pretty much impossible to live the Rock Star Life and commit oneself fully to family life.
As a stay-at-home mom, I know that the balance is very difficult to maintain. I'm a semi/low-productive poet and full-time stay-at-home mom. Family comes first because it has to come first AND because I am committed to it coming first. If you're famous and you have a lot of money, you can delegate and hire and come in and out of the family dynamic more freely. But that disengagement comes at a price, usually.
To be continued. LIFE calls.
When things become too simple or repetitive or mundane -or when our emotions no longer drive our art, the artist might become restless. She may even misinterpret that restlessness for unhappiness rather than seeing it for whatever it truly may be. Then, as a result of this misinterpretation of self, the artist might self-sabotage in the name (misname) of happiness or freedom (or whatever other bull-shit she's selling herself); when in fact she is actually seeking out the unhappiness that drives her to create her "best" art. The "best" art may also be a MISinterpretation by the artist, as she has bought into the public's valuation of her art (and, therefore, internalized their valuations and devaluations of her art).
Her self-worth then becomes tied so deeply into her public image and artistic fame that she will abandon anything that poses a threat to either. Day-to-day family life (aka life with children) DEFINITELY threatens artistic productivity, public success AND fame. It's pretty much impossible to live the Rock Star Life and commit oneself fully to family life.
As a stay-at-home mom, I know that the balance is very difficult to maintain. I'm a semi/low-productive poet and full-time stay-at-home mom. Family comes first because it has to come first AND because I am committed to it coming first. If you're famous and you have a lot of money, you can delegate and hire and come in and out of the family dynamic more freely. But that disengagement comes at a price, usually.
To be continued. LIFE calls.
